The Art of Dating

"Those marriages generally abound most with love and constancy that are preceded by a long courtship." Joseph Addison

Whether you are single, widowed, divorced or about to be, pursuing love can be more fruitful when you are open to the many exciting opportunities it offers. In our society people date for two reasons: Either you are looking for love or you are seeking companionship or sex. If you are interested in finding a partner, think of dating as an opportunity to spend time with someone that kindles your hope for finding you soul-mate, where joint activities are enjoyable.

Think of yourself as interviewing for the most important opening in your life – a partner. It's a time to gain new knowledge, experiment with new activities, have fun and learn more about who you are. What sort of people do you truly respect? What sort of people enhance the quality of your life? What do you want from a relationship, and what is fair to expect from it? How do you drop a person you are dating when you discover s/he’s Mr. /Ms. Wrong? My advice is to enjoy the process, focus on having a good time, and in time the prize will present itself.

In order to assist you in deciding what your goal is – what kind of partner you are seeking I recommend that you first need to be truthful with yourself about where you find yourself in the present, right now. The future cannot occur in a vacuum, without a firm acceptance of the present state you are in. So only when you know where you are, will you be able to get to where you wish to go.

Chances are pretty good that you are already doing some of the very things that will help reach your goal of getting married and staying married.